Right before sex, my wife always wears this stupid shower robe. She usually has something sexy on underneath but acts or is very disinterested and I have to prompt her and convince her to have sex. I kind of look at it like a defense mechanism like she is in control and wants me to coax her to feel comfortable. The only thing is after 21 years of dating and 14 years of marriage, it’s fucking annoying. Same robe, same side of the bed, same routine. She was promiscuous in middle school and had some really bad experiences and I wonder if there is some emotional relevance to this. I feel like our sex game has improved greatly over the years but this thing right before foreplay drives me nuts. I tell her this and always ask if she can take off the robe first. She never does. Am I being picky or should she be more willing to put down old ways?