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Speaking of the toy...turn it into a, well, turn on. Dont ask like it is a replacement for him, although I agree with the poster before me, he should be less threatened. Ask like it is a sexual adventure. Whisper in his ear that you want to masturbate with him and get off watching him. Go to the adult store together, look at some porn, buy both of you a toy, then go home and foreplay and use your new toys together. The trip to the store can be a turn on.
His pressuring you to have a certain result is going to have the opposite effect. Try to find a way to communicate to him that it isn't helpful and will only cause problems.
He should care enough about you to investigate low sex drive and medications, instead of going on a witch hunt for your ‘O’.
Also your body and your sexual health belongs to you. If you want the toy you get the toy. If he feels slighted that’s his own problem, which he will either get over, or not.
we’ve all been here before. you’ve BOTH definitely displayed perfect examples of what not to do to eachother—-like we all have. You gotta live and learn and being one or the other or both’s first can make that even trickier. I suggest you both try the exact opposite of what you’re doing and see what changes he be a little more sympathetic and open to trying things to make you happy and accepting your happiness if you say you’re happy because no one sane would stay with another person for 5 years if that person made them unhappy and you allowing him to experiment trying to get you there—pick a safe word that way if it’s just not happening and you wanna stop or try something else you can.
Go to a therapist (male if you have to) together so he can hear it (all the stuff you just told us about depression/meds/general drive)from a professional. Even if it’s just once or twice (idk what financials are like).
A small dick is a small dick- but those with small dicks shouldn’t just automatically assume a girl can’t get off from it. I’ve done plenty of smaller sized men and had no issues getting off. You gotta ride and grind the shit outta him! It’s easier to take control of your orgasm when you’re doing the work and you get all the length if you’re on top of it. If he makes an effort to be less personally attacked by stuff—tell him exactly what works and what doesn’t. Neither of you will be happy lying to in spite of each others feelings.
Hiya! Experienced boyfriend here but this absolutely goes for men and women.
Best advice I ever learned about being in a relationship is "it's probably not about you". When you stop assuming that she lives and dies on every little thing you do, everything gets so much easier. She obviously pissy? Don't assume you did something wrong. Defensiveness is horribly unattractive to everyone and assuming that her mood is entirely contingent on your behaviour is just inviting yourself to feel that way. It is simultaneously and paradoxically insecure AND self centered.
It's a habit a lot of us have to work to break. After all, we only have our own perspective, you can't easily borrow someone else's. But if you can take the time to stop and think about why they're feeling the way that they're feeling, you may notice that he or she is just hangry. Or had a shit day. Or is stressed.
We've all had interactions with a complete stranger where our anxiety or embarrassment has had a lasting impact on us. Because we are impacted, our partners notice. This is just an example, and it's why it's so important to just tell your partner when you actually are mad at them.
Communication is important, not just to get our wishes across, but to protect our loved ones from themselves. The insecurity you see in your boyfriend is motivated by fear. Because he's insecure about his inexperience, he may fear losing you because he's assuming that your lack of orgasms is a result of his abilities. If he can get to a place where he doesn't assume that your feelings are his own fault all the time, the pouting will stop. That's the /u/Phridgey guarantee.