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Sure, as long as you don't stop me from doing my job. It's not my job to flirt with you and you can make it really hard for me to balance being polite with not allowing you to distract me if you insist on pulling me aside to discuss anything other than the service.
I was once fired for "no reason, it's just not working out" when my manger walked by while a 40 year old dude (I was 20) suddenly said, "I wish you were wearing what those girls are wearing," while pointing to girls in short dresses. My manager made a disgusted face and sent the assistant manager to tell me I'm not allowed to speak with men any more (really hard to do my job) and that I needed to meet with him after my shift. A restaurant may be a bar, but the employees aren't there to be picked up. You can even cost us our jobs if you come off inappropriately enough and it seems like we're letting it happen.
It's fine. It's non-confrontational and potentially flattering which is good when working. However, she's working so she is being paid to be nice to you. It isn't her real personality you're meeting. She knows that and is aware you're interest is based off her looks and her work persona. So that might damper her enthusiasm. Besides, if you don't say anything she might not see the number or get to keep the receipt.
If you want a better chance of success, wait till she's not busy and let her know your leaving your number and want to get to know her sometime. Keep it low key.
I actually received one from a waiter on my bill once :D It's not exactly what you were looking for but my insight would be that a number doesn't force anything . You can call or you can not call, if the person who left the number can deal with rejection and waiting for an answer the person receiving should only look at it as a nice cute thing to do :) But this is my view..
As a former waitress, the answer is nope. It was always an uncomfortable feeling because there is a clear inbalance of power. I clearly wanted to get a good tip, so I did a good job and was charismatic and efficient and talkative, all of which doesn't have anything to do with being flirty, but guys always saw it that way. I couldn't complain about it either because I didn't want to reduce my tips, but I always felt uneasy when that happened. Same thing with retail.
Used to work as a waitress. I think this is fine, but not sure how effective. It really depends on how busy the restaurant is and if said friend is a regular. Make sure he doesn't press her if she doesn't call. Just means she's not interested. (I think BetterCalldeGaulle's suggestion is the way to go)
Yeah, no. Don't do that. Waitresses are fake, trust me. We get treated like shit, and slap on the "I'm super happy and sweet" vibe because we're paid to. We're being nice to you because that it our job, and if we don't do it properly, we get let go.
You don't know who is waiting on you. You don't know what her personality is like.
Worked for five years as a server and bartender, and it happened fairly often. Just don't expect a call-back (might be in a relationship already, might just not be interested), don't come in next time and ask why she never called, and give a good tip (if you want any chance).
It happens all the time. Whether or not the waitress calls you back depends on if she actually thinks you’re attractive and how much you tipped. Rarely do the two line up.