My last partner and I had a phenomenal sex life and I'm beginning to think I underestimated how easy it would be to find again. His love for oral sex showed me oral on a woman shouldn't be just treated as a necessity to get out of the way before the main event, and now I won't really accept anything else. I think that's a good thing.

However, we would also have sex very frequently. Say we spent the whole day together, it would be 4-5 times at least. His libido was great and I enjoyed feeling so desired. Now if other partners don't have such a drive for sex I think they just don't desire me as much. I also generally find it hard not to compare and think we simply aren't right for each other if we spend the night together but don't have morning sex, for example.

How can I break this mindset?