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I’d guess he doesn’t know how important it is. Guys typically don’t need as much foreplay, so he could be projecting his own sexuality onto you, assuming you get off on the same things he does.
If he’s a keeper, then you shouldn’t need to dance around it too much. Just tell him how you feel and what you’d like to see more of. If you want to be more delicate with your communication, point out a time or two when he did do at least some foreplay (assuming that exists), and tell him how much you enjoyed it.
How long have you guys been together? Has it always been like this or was it different in the beginning?
If the latter, try taking PIV off the table for a little while (a week to a month I'd say), it'll encourage you both to branch out from just blowjobs and PIV.
If the former, try mutual masturbation, guide his hands, pop one over yours at first so he can feel how you touch yourself. Then your hand over his guiding him. Then just lead his hand down. Encourage slowly. Then positions like 69, suggest a feedback loop, you'll stimulate him as long as he stimulates you. It should link him giving you pleasure to you giving him, positive reinforcement.
Talk to him when you're both relaxed and not in the bedroom. Make it clear, it's not him fucking up, but you want to expand both of your repertoires. If he's not open to trying to improve things, then you need to consider whether you want to tie yourself to the sex you're having now for the rest of your life.
From my experience, he’s fully aware that there is hardly any foreplay and simply just doesn’t care and is being selfish. Bring it up with him in a non sexual setting and if things don’t improve, reconsider your relationship and whether you want to spend the rest of your life with a selfish person in bed.
When you say it's starting to affect how much you enjoy the sex what exactly do you mean? Because if it's at all painful or uncomfortable because you're not wet enough, that's definitely something you should let him know. Just tell him it's nothing he's doing wrong, your body just needs a little more foreplay to get wet enough.
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