Some context: I (27/F) started dating my boyfriend (23/M) nearly 3 months ago, and we’ve been having sex for about 2 months. I went for my annual checkup at the OBGYN on 2/1, and gave my bf the first blowjob of our relationship last week. This morning, my doctor called with my STD results and informed me that I had an abnormal pap and tested positive for HPV. I hadn’t dated or had sex with anyone for over 5 years prior to my current bf, and had never had an abnormal pap before, so in all likelihood this came from him.

First question: I’m not upset or trying to assign blame, but I’m looking for advice on how to bring it up with him, as I feel like that’s a necessary conversation for us to have. The relationship is so new and we both have anxiety issues and I’m worried about how best to tell him in a way that doesn’t make him think I’m shaming him or blaming him in any way. Just that it happened, it’s a fact, and I’m ok, but I want him to know.

Second question: Oral sex with HPV. From what I’ve seen it seems as though doctors don’t quite know how HPV is transmitted orally, in that it happens at a far smaller frequency than the genital infection does. Is this true? What are my options here? I’d never really enjoyed blowjobs before, but with him there’s a lot of trust and care for the other’s enjoyment in our relationship, and I actually really did enjoy it. What would be the best course of action to take when approaching oral sex in the future, both giving and receiving (I have not received oral sex yet, and knowing now that I have HPV kind of makes me afraid to receive it)?

Edited to add: just to clarify the timeline, the pap was already taken when the blowjob occurred. I know I didn’t get genital HPV from the blowjob. I’m mostly concerned about the chances of getting HPV in my throat from oral sex (already or in the future) and how best to let my bf know he has HPV.