Okay so title might be slightly misleading. It is killer, but not in a good way. It hurts. Bad.

Basically unless my partner and I have 30+ minutes of Foreplay/i cum first, we cant do doggy because I physically cant handle it. It hurts SO bad. I Like doing it when it doesnt hurt, and when we do anything where I'm facing him it only lasts about half the time (he assures me this is not negative but it feels like I'm doing something wrong and he wants it over with - but i digress, thats a woke post of its own). So I need to figure something out, i need advice. If i had all the time to dedicate to foreplay i would, but we've got a baby so spontaneous sex is the only sex we have at this point.

Any advice? Positioning that might help? ways to relax myself without the whole 9 yards of cumming before we even start?