Ok so long story short, me and my gf are trying to have anal for the first time. She’s very nervous about it hurting. I understand it may hurt if you have never done it before so I said I could finger her ass so it will be easier but she “thinks that’s too gross” lol so she just wants to put my penis in rather than using fingers or a plug, which she is also against. I have some silicone lube which should be good enough, but I don’t know what else I can do to help her loosen up. Is my best bet just to take it REALLY slow until she is more comfortable?