Hello, I have just left my husband of 9 years. We had a good marriage in many ways and were/are good friends but we’d never connected sexually and his mental health issues left me feeling guilty for asking for sex. I finally ended the marriage a week ago one of the catalysts being I developed a significant crush on a friend but he just started seeing someone in the last couple of weeks.

My question is this: obviously I have to process the end of my marriage, a decision not taken lightly and we do have a child.

I’m incredibly horny and frustrated though having gone without satisfactory sex for the last eleven years (I’m 34/f) and without any at all for 18months. IlI live in a small community so don’t want to jump straight on tinder. How do I get laid?!