I've been married to my husband for 2 years. We love each other deeply and have an active sex life. I'm happy with him and he is "the one." Recently I learned about his past in an unexpected way, though. Some college buddies of his visited our home. They were joking around, kept calling him "stud," making indirect references to his past life and how they're glad he settled down with me and got it together.
I kind of had some idea of his past. We've talked a little about our sexual histories, but it was an unspoken rule that we wouldn't get into it too much, because we didn't want that image in our minds. I did suspect he was successful with the ladies, though. He's 6 foot 3, dark hair, well-built, and charming. So I never expected he was an angel. But I was taken aback by what I heard. So I sat down and asked my husband about it later.
He was a little abashed about it, but he admitted he was the stereotypical frat boy who slept around. I kept asking and he admitted he slept with probably 25+ women over his 4 years in college. He said he was infamous in his frat for his womanizing . I don't see him as any lesser for this.
But it bothers me, because he has so much experience, and he probably compares sex with me (consciously or unconsciously) to his past sexual escapades. I feel more self-conscious. I only slept with 2 guys before meeting him, my high school sweetheart and a college boyfriend.
He loves me, he treats me right, he's intellectually and emotionally mature, and I have a hard time picturing him as a horny college kid drowning in women. But that's his past. How do I get over this?