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lol at the people saying that you'll hate her eventually (stop being so sour!). Look, it may wax and wane over your life, but it sounds like you have found what many a looking for. Once the literal honeymoon stage lessens it should be manageable, but I still can't wait to see my wife at the end of the day and am addicted to her body and we've been together for 17 years.
Try reminding yourself that you are at least work partly for her. Dedicate your time at work to her so she wont have to worry about your work life. Use it to your advantage. Let her inspire your work. Even if you dont like it, do it for her.
Have sex in the morning before work to hopefully work some sexual energy out of your body.
Go to IKEA together.
Did you and your wife go on a honeymoon? If not, that's what you need to do. Take her away for a couple of weeks and get it all out of your system.
Did you have sex before you got married?
Take a vacation. Let the wife know you have some demons to exercise in order to function.
Let it all out then.
Also get some dirty texting going with the wife so you can both be ready when you get home.
This is the cutest problem I've ever heard.
Shit I wish someone wrote this about me lol.
Sounds to me like you're in love.
so.. your wife found your reddit account?
You're a newlywed. You're supposed to feel this way.
Wear her used panties over your face like a ski mask putting her crotch right on your nose.
Um... to everyone saying "this is cute" and "sounds like you're in love"... no. This is different. This is a guy who is having active decline in productivity at work, enough to get noticed by his boss. He could lose his job because he is "thinking of his wife" at work.
Don't take these guys advice. Don't "enjoy it" don't take it as normal. Find ways to concentrate at work. Find music that puts you in the zone. It could be with or without lyrics. Music that doesn't remind you of her. Maybe listen to podcasts. Have videos in the background. Something to distract that part of your brain that wanders back to your wife.
Also... pretty sure having a semi literally all day may not be the best for your dick's health.
Pretty normal for a newlywed
This sounds like the people with porn addictions...anyways try creating a separation between work thoughts and home thoughts. When you’re at work, focus on your co-workers and the job, when you leave work, then focus on your wife. Try to get yourself to live these “2 separate lives” it may help being more productive.
This sounds like this goes beyond just being passionate about her. Might want to talk to a mental health professional about this. Many times we can subconsciously mask many emotional or mental health problems with issues like these. Having this be out of your control and affecting other parts of your life is, in my opinion, not normal.
When I first got married, I would meet my wife at nearby hotels (either close to my job or to hers) and we'd have quickies 2-3 times a week. We joke now that we pissed away savings and we could have bought a home sooner, haha!
I had/have the same "problem" as you, btw. Over 20 years now and she's still the perfect woman for me (even after a couple of kids and some stretch marks here and there, some days I wonder how I got so f-ing lucky!)
My god, I’ve never seen such a perfect humblebrag specimen in the wild! I must capture and tag it, for science.
Read a book called Power of a Habit.
Develop a hobby and give yourself something outside of your wife to think about.
Knock one out before you leave for work or have her meet you for lunch. You just need to get a couple of rounds out of the magazine so that you can get some work done while you get through the honeymoon phase.
If that don’t work, tell your doctor you’re depressed and need an antidepressant. That’ll kill your libido faster than watching Rosie ODonald and Trump making out on stage.
Get a kid
I think you would probably benefit from therapy. Therapy has helped me with intrusive thoughts that get in the way of my work (though my thoughts weren't about my wife. Or your wife.)
No responses from OP. Lame
This has happened to me a few times. When I first got with my wife (of course), and then some kind of new found obsession like 2 years after. It only lasted a month or two each time (to that degree, at least). It will pass. I still love my wife the same as I did through all that, but it’s just a constant obsession. But seriously, I understand this exactly. All I did was think about her and text her sexy shit. And I was a mess through those months. Most (that haven’t experienced this) would think this a great thing, but it really is distracting. I wouldn’t mind it happening again though. Cause it seriously is the best feeling. Honesty, I think it’s all about finding something else you’re passionate about as well. But it’s not something you can just go out and find. It’s gotta find you. That sounds lame, but it’s true.
Oh, and I saw someone say to get a kid. I have 2, and that just made it even worse. Cause it’s way harder to shut it down when you’re forced to at home.
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but... is it possible that you are placing her on a pedestal? What I mean is literally believing that she is kind of too good for you, hence your need to be with her...
If it's not, then you're probably just madly in love and quite horny; take her on vacation to somewhere nice where you can be in love and have sex all day long, then come back to regular life when the passion's been well spent.
But, if it is that... just remember that not only is she attractive and a nice girl, but you're the man that made her fall in love (with you, of course), so you're just as amazing yourself. Forgetting that might lead to you eventually thinking that she's above you, and if she somehow plays with or breaks your heart, that could be very, very bad for you.
Sounds like you're an 18 year old couple who have been together less than a year.
She found your reddit account, huh? Good luck with that
This is your first and only post, idk sounds weird to me
Guys, help, I'm really attractive and have sex with too many hot girls. It's beginning to take a toll on me. I don't know what to do, please help.
Your wife will find you much less appealing if your shitty performance leads to you getting clipped. Use it as motivation and create a positive feedback loop.
Lol, just don't have kids. It'll ruin your sex life. seriously.
This is so cute. I want my future husband to feel that way about me lol
nice humble brag bro. idk what to say to help you.
Well, you could just walk around the office with a raging hard on talking about, "Sorry ladies, I'm a married man."
Get ahold of yourself man it’s just pussy, act like you’ve gotten laid before lol Jesus have a wank at work during lunch or something chill
I have this same problem. Married 7 months. Let me know when you solve it.
Get over yourself.
I'm sure it will die down a bit over time, and get to a more manageable level. In the mean time just try to focus at work and manage those feelings the best you can.
Then when you get home just go nuts and enjoy it.
Sounds like you need to go jerk off during your lunch break man
Give it 6 more months and try to avoid thinking about her at work (for now). My husband and I were like rabbits until we got pregnant (hormones axed my sex drive).
Edit: husband says “have sex in the morning and rub one out at lunch”
Honestly dude I’m in the same boat but I’m off work sick now since Christmas Ffs. But I literally spend the whole day thinking about her, and wouldn’t ever consider seeking out another woman. Like cheating to me is quite literally laughable, I don’t think there is anyone sexier than her, and even if someone was no way in hell are they going to be as funny and smart and hard working as her. I would honestly be delighted if you told me now I could never have sex with anyone but her again, its just fucking perfect on every level.
Count ourselves lucky bud, this is a very good problem to have.
Go rub one down in the bathroom and get back to work. Still need that salary to pay the bills.
Since you're dead serious and asking for help, its worth mentioning that this kind of obsessive pattern of thinking invariably shifts toward a less stressful and less intense feeling of warm, compassionate love. It will dampen over time. Its how we're built.
Everybody making jokes about how great it must be and how cute it is, but if it's actually effecting your work you need to do something about it. A sex therapist or therapist with experience in things like sex addiction could help.
"We just got married 5 months ago..." Yep.
This is amazing, and so cute. I have the same problem at work right now too :(.
This sounds like a clinically significant obsession. I'd talk to a psychologist about it.
Sorry I can't give you serious answer, just this golden piece of internet history: http://www.larknews.com/archives/217 (eat a whole raw potato)
Feels like a troll post. Account was made today
How old are you, and are you on any drugs - eg steroids?
For the 'boss at work' side of things, explain it as 'newlywed issues'. Leave it to them to decide if that's good or bad, if it's you're trying to make a baby or whatever else. "Family values" generally play well.
It's called the honeymoon phase for a reason.
I bet most guys and girls wish they had this problem. How long did you date before you got married? Did you have sex before you got married? This just started after the wedding?
Oh babe! Gosh! You're just the sweetest thing to me! Love you boo!
I just wanna see your wife, to be honest...
Jack off on your lunch break and fuck your wife when you get home. We all have obsessions be they hot wife, delicious meal, cool video game, tv programs, that possesses our minds when we need to focus elsewhere.
Bang and cum before work and on lunch break if need be and buckle down or your sexy wife and you will be looking for a smaller house and simpler life.
I think about pussy all day also. Maybe channel it into your work and be responsible.
It's called the honey moon phase.
Is it hard to stay comfortable knowing that you always gotta be on top of your game to deserve someone like her? Do you worry you're not good enough or can't support her like she could be supportive? How long have you guys been together?
Honeymooner? Give it time it shall pass!
Enjoy it! You're well and truly lovesick by the sounds of it. Better than the common cold, huh?
Just wait a while. It’ll cool down. Trust me
You are my doppelganger! I showed this to my wife, and said....i get it. No help needed. Embrace and know she picked u. Bc if doubt ever kicks in, u will autodestruct! Great post.
Wow congratulations, that sounds amazing. Enjoy every moment. As for your problem, give it time.
just one more suggestion.while on work say you concentrate 25 minutes only on work and next 20 minutes thinking about her. next 25 minutes only and only work. if you continue your cycle like this. your work will made good progress
First off, congratulations! This is such a wonderful problem to have.
You could be excessively horny, accentuated by the hotness of your wife. It might be useful to masturbate more often, to decrease your sexual desire from a fundamental level.
serious answer, ask mr locario about this. youtuber. this will make you needy so you need to change your strategy bro, good luck.
I feel your pain brother. Living with a hot unicorn can be hell.
Reminds me of a line from the movie Defending Your Life. You should be with somebody just hot enough to be attractive. Anything extra just causes problems.
You and her try playing with a chastity cage so you can't even get hard until you get it together or she wants you out.
I know it's not everybody's thing, but it really could help. Just spitballin' ideas.
Try meditation? You’ve got to get control of your thoughts and fully stopping, then rebooting, them regularly can help find that control. Even 5m at a time, focus on only your breath and as your mind wanders don’t worry, just go back to focusing on your breath as it all melts away.
You are a lucky man
Post a pic of yo wife plz